1 Corinthians 13:5 “It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”
Love does not dishonor others. Another way of saying this is that love is not rude. Have you ever been around someone that is rude? Maybe they keep interrupting you when you are trying to speak. Or that guy that has no concept of personal space. Or the person that cuts in line in front of you. Or someone that never says thank you no matter what you do for them. It could be more subtle like someone that doesn’t bother to communicate a change of plans with you and leaves you hanging. What do all these examples have in common? Someone who is rude is self focused at the expense of others.
We dishonor our spouse when we put our desires above theirs. For example, when we talk badly about our spouse to others so we can feel validated or vindicated, when we invalidate our spouse’s feelings by disagreeing or fixing instead of listening and understanding, when we make financial decisions without consulting with our spouse, when we don’t pick up after ourselves, when we work harder at our job than we do on our marriage, when we look outside our marriage for sexual fulfillment, when we take our spouse for granted.
When I think of how God loves us, I don’t ever feel like He is being rude. He always has our best interest in mind. He never forces His will upon us though He could. He never bullies us or threatens us. We are the apple of His eye and the focus of His constant attention. He allows us and chooses us to be a part in what He is doing. He gave everything in order to make our marriage work. He patiently waits and is faithful to His bride. He always and only sees the good in us and encourages us to onward. That’s how I want to love others!