24 Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.

There is a two letter word that I think parents have forgotten how to use. It goes hand in hand with the discipline that this verse talks about. That two letter word doesn’t require any explanation. It stands on its own just fine. Somehow, parents have forgotten about the power of this word and have opened themselves up to a multitude of meaningless arguments. The two letter word that I am referring to is “no”.

I strongly believe that many of the problems with our youth today stem from a lack of parents to say no to their children. Is it because we love our children so much more nowadays or is it because we fear our children and the judgments of the community around us that we have such a hard time saying no? According to this verse, it is not because we love our children. If we loved our children then we would be careful to discipline them. God says no to us, why do we think it so wrong to say it to our children? Then perhaps it is because we are more fearful of the judgments of others and our own kids that keeps us from telling them no?

What makes it hard for you to say no? Are you afraid by not letting your child get what they want that they will be somehow ruined? Or is it that it is just too hard to stand strong when constantly battered by the world system at work all around us? Or could it be that your worst fear would be that your child was angry with you and somehow that made you a bad parent?

“My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you, because the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and he chastens everyone he accepts as his son.” Heb.12:5-6.