The wonderful “Oneness” of marriage. Being one with your wife is so much more than just a physical union..It is an emotional and spiritual oneness as well. It is not just being on the same page but being united and supportive and nurturing of each other. It takes constant communication and active listening to be one with your spouse.
If you are not experiencing that oneness in your marriage today, perhaps you have missed the first part of this verse. As husbands, we are to leave our father and mother and be united, or glued to, our wife. What does it mean to leave your father and mother? It means you have to grow up. You can’t stay a child any longer. As it says in 1 Cor. 13:11, “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.” You have to learn to take responsibility for yourself and provide for yourself. It means you have to stand on your own beliefs and convictions. Afterwards we are to be united to, or cleave to, or be glued to, our wife. This means you are choosing to make the relationship with your wife second only to your relationship with God. It becomes who you are. You are no longer independent. You are united. And because the two are one this relationship was designed to be forever. And because the two are one there is no superiority or controlling each other in marriage.
- Is there an area of your life in which you still need to grow up?
- Is there a relationship other than with God that you’ve made more important than your wife?
Your marriage was designed to show the world around you how Christ and His bride relate with each other. How are you doing at this?